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Divorce can happen in a deceptive marriage

Divorce can happen for many reasons. Some couples just don't get along. Some drift apart over time. Some see a divorce triggered by a key event, like infidelity or the development of an addiction.

What if you were tricked into getting married in the first place? A deceptive marriage could certainly lead to divorce.

What are the upsides to birdnesting?

Are you thinking about birdnesting after your divorce? This is an arrangement that means you and your spouse split up custody by moving in and out of the home, while your children stay there. For example, if custody changes every other week, rather than sending the kids to your spouse for a week and then getting them back, you'd just move into their house for a week, while your spouse lived elsewhere, and then swap with him or her at the end of the week.

This is a fairly new idea, and there are some significant upsides to consider:

It can be hard to get child support from other countries

Technically, a spouse who moves to another country is still supposed to pay child support. Legally, though, it can be very hard to get him or her to pay. The reason is that many countries do not have standing laws and agreements saying they'll help if a spouse flees over the border to avoid payments.

There are officially 195 countries in the world. Just 15 of them have agreements with the United States regarding the enforcement of child support. There countries are Australia, the Czech Republic, Canada, El Salvador, Hungary, Finland, Ireland, Northern Ireland, the Netherlands, Poland, Norway, Portugal, The United Kingdom, the Slovak Republic and Switzerland.

What should you do if your spouse won't sign divorce papers?

It's possible that your spouse will be so against the idea of getting a divorce in California that he or she will refuse to sign the papers. If so, what should you do next? Does this mean you're not going to get the divorce that you want?

First off, know that this doesn't mean you can't get divorced. You can still take your case to court, and the court can grant you a divorce even if your spouse won't sign. Don't worry, you're not locked into the relationship with no way to get out.

Why some people don't like paying child support

People tend not to like paying for anything, but child support seems like one of those things that would actually be easy to stomach. Even if the marriage fell apart, wouldn't the parent be happy to pay to help raise a child that he or she loved? After all, the parent anticipated paying at least that much when the couple was together, as raising a child is never free.

However, some experts have noted that people often hate paying child support, whether they are rich or living from one paycheck to the next. Since the amount of wealth doesn't matter, what is it that makes them resent the payments?

Should you keep your divorce records?

If you go through a divorce in California, you may really just want to put the whole thing behind you and forget about it. As such, you could be tempted to get rid of your divorce records. After all, the marriage is done, so what use do you have for the paperwork?

Despite wanting to put the whole thing in the past, it's actually important to hang on to your divorce records for a few reasons. For one thing, if you choose to get married again in the future, you may not be allowed to get a marriage license until you can show that you ended the previous relationship. The court will want more than your word, asking to see the records to ensure that you're not breaking any laws regarding polygamy.

For child support, is income more than wages?

When you think of your income for the year, odds are you simply think of your wages, whether you're paid hourly, on contracts, or on a salary. While this is definitely your main source of income, it's important to note that there are far more things to consider when determining how much you make for the purposes of paying or receiving child support.

Depending on the industry in which you work, other sources of income could include, but are not limited to, the following:

Perceived custody roles have always been changing

In recent decades, there has been a bit of a shift away from always giving custody to mothers, as courts have decided that mothers and fathers should both be involved in the lives of their children. This has led to many joint custody cases where children move back and forth from one home to the next.

When looking at this shift, it's interesting to put it into a historical perspective, looking at the way that custody roles have been viewed over time and the impact this has had on culture.

Can your ex ask for custody in a different state?

Are you worried that your spouse may take your child to a different state when you get divorced? Are you concerned that he or she may then ask the courts in that state to rule on custody of the child, potentially making it so that you lose the right to see that child?

If so, you typically do not need to worry. Under the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act, the courts in a child's home state have to make the ruling in the vast majority of cases. California and 47 other states use the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act; only Vermont and Massachusetts do not.

Would you ever want to co-own your house with your ex?

Typical advice when you're getting divorced in California is that you should get both of your names off of the mortgage. You're probably either going to sell the house and split the money, refinance it on your own, or have your ex-refinance it. In many cases, this is the proper route, but is there a situation in which you'd want to stay on the mortgage with your ex?

There is one, and it isn't for everyone. If you have children and you'd like to keep living in the house with them, but you know your credit won't get you the mortgage on your own, you may want to keep your ex on the loan. This way, even if you're paying it, you still get the loan you were approved for when you applied together. Basically, you're using your ex's credit to help.

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