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Can you have your divorce petition dismissed?

Maybe you filed for divorce as an emotional response to something that you've now worked through with your spouse, and you'd like to stay married. Maybe there have been other significant life changes that make it appear your marriage isn't going to end after all. Once the paperwork is in, can you stop it, or are you stuck having to move forward with a divorce you no longer want?

You can definitely ask to have your divorce petition dismissed by the court. You'll need to file a motion to dismiss with the court where you initially filed for your divorce. This motion will then have to be granted by the court before the paperwork is taken off the books.

It's easiest when parents agree on a parenting plan

You may not feel like agreeing with your ex about anything after a divorce. However, when it comes to child custody and parenting plans, it is easiest if you both agree on how things are going to be done. The children will behave better if they have the same rules everywhere.

For example, it's dangerous for one parent to always be strict and for the other parent to be the "fun" one. A father who only sees his kids on the weekends may be focused only on making sure that they like him, for instance. He won't make them do homework, he'll let them watch TV and eat as many snacks as they want, he won't have a bedtime for them, and they'll basically be free to do what they desire. The kids, of course, will love this.

Post-divorce tips to help you move on

It can be hard to move forward after a divorce, even if you know that the divorce was smart and the best decision for all involved. These tips can help you move on and perhaps even reinvent yourself a bit as you step into this next stage in your life.

First, don't be afraid to mourn the loss of the marriage. There's nothing wrong with that. It doesn't mean you made a mistake. It just means a big part of your life has ended, and mourning is a natural step for most people so that they can move on to the next part.

Parenting plan changes may be needed as kids age

The kids are heading back to school, and it's never been so clear how your children have grown up and changed over the years. For some, it's a transition between elementary and middle school, or between middle school and high school. For others, it's just a new year with new opportunities and experiences.

As these changes manifest themselves, you may find that your parenting plan no longer fits. Since the plan is supposed to have the child's best interests in mind, it may be worth addressing.

The 3 main options for child support payments

You cannot pay child support in California just by giving your ex cash and telling him or her that it's for a support payment. The law says that everyone in the state who is paying support actually needs to send it to the State Disbursement Unit first, and then it is sent out to those who are to receive it. This makes payments easier to track and verify.

There are three main options that you can use if you're getting payments, with the first being a bank check that is simply mailed to you. This is easy, it doesn't rely on technology, and it's perhaps the simplest way for many people to get their money. You do have to cash the check before it can be spent, though, and some banks having waiting periods before a check will clear.

Why might lump sum alimony be better than regular payments?

There are advantages to regular alimony payments, such as the fact that they keep you from spending the money too quickly and they provide you with a stable, predictable income for as long as you get them. If you're being paid $3,000 per month, for instance, you can set up your budget to reflect that income level and create a lifestyle that fits your means.

However, there are some big advantages to taking a lump sum payment up front. It's definitely something you at least want to consider when trying to get alimony in California. Instead of getting $3,000 per month for ten years, for example, you may be able to ask for $360,000 up front.

Arrest warrant sought in international child custody case

A child custody case has grown very complicated, and now the Yolo County DA has asked for an arrest warrant. On August 2, a hearing will be held to decide if that warrant will be granted or not.

The basis of the case is this: A woman had full custody of her children. She had split up with their father and alleged that domestic violence had taken place. That father was allowed to visit the kids, but the visits had to be supervised.

Are assumptions about child support fair?

Courts will sometimes make assumptions when it comes to child support payments and the amount that needs to be paid by each parent. While these may be an unavoidable part of the process, it can be argued that assumptions don't always tell the whole story.

For example, imagine that one parent has sole custody of his or her child. The court is then going to ask the other parent to pay child support, which is intended to be roughly half of the money needed to raise the child. The parents are supposed to split this cost, just as they would have done if they'd stayed married.

Change your will after a divorce

You're going to have a lot of paperwork to deal with when getting divorced in California, so it can be easy to overlook little things. One job you want to make sure you get taken care of, though, is changing your will. It may be best to do this during the divorce process, so that it's set in stone, but you at least want to do it by the time the divorce is finalized. There are many reasons why, including the following:

1. You want to take your spouse out. This is the most obvious, but it's worth stating because there have been cases where people got divorced, split up their assets, and then one spouse died without changing his or her will -- giving all of those assets right back.

Important things to do for your children after divorce

Divorce can be tough on kids, even when the split is for the best overall, and so it's important for parents to think of the children during and after the process. Often, you can craft a parenting plan that focuses on them and makes things go smoothly. Here are a few of the best things you can do for them:

1. Practice consistency and reliability. If you're supposed to pick the kids up from school on Tuesdays and Thursdays, make sure you're always there and that you're on time.

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