During a pandemic filled with its share of “surges,” one, in particular, was either surprising or not so surprising, depending on who you ask. Divorces on a national level were skyrocketing during the first seven to eight months of the crisis that saw the U.S. shutting down and masking up.
Making a bad situation worse
The reasons behind the martial dissolutions were no different than other times in history, with boredom, infidelity, financial challenges, and abuse of all kinds becoming a tragic marital norm. COVID-19 added another layer of anxiety with job losses for parents, many of whom had children staying home for “remote learning.”
In addition, the uncertainty of the virus’ spread forced many to look inward, take stock of their lives, and reevaluate the choices they have made, specifically the selection of their spouses.
As COVID restrictions eased, divorces slowed down in frequency. Those that stayed together may have witnessed all the negativity on television. The status quo seemed best, although many may have only prolonged what is likely inevitable.
Even those who postponed 2020 weddings to 2021 gave themselves more time around their soon-to-be spouse before the ceremony. With many couples living together prior to marriage, it would not be surprising to see the same dynamic evolve with more postponements, if not outright cancellations.
For many, the return to a semblance of a normal life represented an opportunity to live their lives again. Feelings of taking things for granted can be a strong motivator and lead to significant life changes, starting with ending an engagement or a marriage.